Wednesday, 7 May 2008

Making a statement

Today I tried on some wedding dresses. It didn't go very well. I don't know if it was the bad new haircut or what, but nothing looked great. In fact, most of the dresses looked awful and I couldn't quite smile at myself in the mirror. So that was a bit depressing.
I started off in Monsoon having liked the look of a couple of dresses on their website. All the long dresses were just too long (I am five foot one and a half). All the shorter ones seemed a bit shapeless on me. And I don't know how many other brides-to-be had tried them on before me, but I did see quite a lot of dangling threads and loose sequins which put me off too.

I tried a second shop. I don't know why - maybe it was the bad haircut again, or maybe because then I was starting to feel a bit harassed - but I only flicked through a few dresses, saw a £1000 price tag and came over all faint. I just can't pay that much money for a dress - it seems all wrong when you have three kids to feed and clothe. So I ran out of the shop in a fluster.

THEN I looked in the windows of the poshest bride shop in town... but it's one of those places where you have to ring the bell for them to let you in and there were no prices in the window and I was all hot and sweaty and I was sure the door would be answered by someone very glam and beautiful who would turn their nose up at me... so I went home.

Maybe I'll just get married in a black bin liner. I could call it a statement. What do you reckon?

18 comments:

mjmoore said...

Oh, that's a shame! I guess the money thing is a bit different when you have a family. We didn't when we got married.. we paid for most of our wedding, but my mum bought my dress. It did cost around £800, which did seem a load of money, but was worth it. My experience was good.. I tried on a few different ones, and one style just seemed 'right'.

I'm sure you're find something gorgeous!! Good luck!

patroclus said...

I sympathise - I'm five foot nothing and I find all clothes shopping experiences frustrating, let alone shopping for a wedding dress! In the end, I got married in a fantastic vintage 1950s cocktail dress that I bought for £29 on ebay.

Good luck with the hunt, you will find something, and you'll look amazing.

Yvonne said...

A friend of mine got her dress made - it wasn't expensive or took long to do. She wanted a more classic style that isn't widely available at the moment and it looked lovely on her. Perhaps it might be a solution for you?

Lucy Diamond said...

MJM, I am so conscious of the money thing, I'm finding it hard to justify large sums when the kids need new shoes and blah-de-blah. BUT at the same time, I do want to look gorgeous... I'll keep you posted!

Hi Patroclus - funnily enough, I was just looking on ebay - there are lots of "sexy bridal gowns" from China on there at the moment but I didn't want to gamble £50 postage on one... I will keep an eye out though - your cocktail dress sounds fab so you never know there might be a bargainette to be had for me too...

Hi Yvonne, that's not a bad idea - I will do some research, thanks!

Helen said...

I know a fab shop near Derby if you are ever up that way! I bought mine from there and it was off the peg but they made it to fit me.

pierre l said...

Hello Lucy. I am sorry to read about your problems with finding a wedding dress. I can't say much to help, seeing we got married in 1976, and things may have a bit since. I do have a suggestion; I have been ready a blogger called "Wendz" for a long time ("a baguette on my table", currently dormant). She has been writing in a place called "AisleDash"; she has written about such things as "how to keep your children happy at your wedding", but also several posts about wedding dress ideas that seem reasonably priced. You can search at:
www.aisledash.com/bloggers/wendy-davidson
I used to enjoy her blog, and I like reading her pieces on that site (even though I have, of course, no plans to get married).
Sorry to read about your too-short hair.

liz fenwick said...

Wedding dresses are tough. I flew home to shop for mine and the pressure was on.......I tried on tons and the woman who the shop said these wise words "don't buy anything until the first words out of your mouth are I love it!" We were about to leave her shop nothing had worked. My mom had taken refuge in the sample dresses and pulled out one that wasn't the style I was looking for but for her sake I tried it on...Bingo. i loved it. It was worn and a bit tired but only $250. Mum had it cleaned then sewed on extra sequins and it no longer looked tired and used (so ring those bells and looked at their samples). Just an idea. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Caroline said...

Could you stick silver stars on to the black bin liner? That could work ...

Did I help?

x

girl with the mask said...

Just breeeeeeeathe deep- you'll find one. Probably.

Lucy Diamond said...

Helen, thanks for the tip, it might come to a Derby mission at this rate!

Hi Pierre, I will seek out Wendz' blog and hopefully get some good advice from her, thanks very much!

Liz, I felt under SUCH pressure yesterday, having 'Wedding Dress' there on my shopping list!! Good tip re samples - I will certainly ask for them.

Caroline, no suggestion is too ridiculous or unhelpful at this point!! I have plenty of silver stars - and gold too. And a few lurid-coloured feathers in the kids' arts and crafts drawer...

Girl - I am breathing, I am breathing - well...actually more like hyperventilating now that I think about it...

I feel as if I need an Apprentice-style voiceover: The hunt for Lucy Diamond's wedding dress continues...

SpiralSkies said...

Oh, crumbs, call the local university/college bribe a fashion student who can add pics to their portfolio. You both win then.

I'd personally rather spend the money on a fab honeymoon or even just a brilliant, lazy, decadent wedding afternoon with a handful of closest friends.

The right dress will find you.

wontletlifedefineme said...

Do you know of any second hand stores or stores that sell party clothes that actually have second hand designer dresses? We have quite a few of those shops in the Netherlands and you can find some real gems there.

Clare Sudbery said...

Oh, commiserations, I know that shopping-for-clothes feeling so well: when nothing looks good.

BUT often it's just about state of mind and how you feel about your general looks on the day in question. Also, being sweaty and stressed doesn't help. Shopping for clothes is an art in itself, and particularly for such an important piece of clothing as this.

Next time you need to treat it as a major occasion: Put a whole day aside for it, make sure that day is full of nice stuff, like lunch and cake in a nice cafe / pub, maybe a massage or facial or something in the morning to get you in the mood, and crucially you need to already like the way you look before you st foot in any shops. Doll yourself up a bit, put some sexy underwear on, and I bet if you give that haircut a week or two you'll have grown into it and found ways of doing stuff to it that make it look nice. Experiment with hair bands, hair products, hats, earrings, etc.

Oh, and take a helpful friend to gee you up, give you honest opinions, moral support and tell you how nice you look in general. And eat cake with you. And maybe the odd cocktail or two... and sort out some kind of childcare so you don't have to rush back prematurely to pick kids up from school or whatever.

You'll find something, just take it easy. I bet you'll get something lovely.

Lucy Diamond said...

SpiralSkies - "the right dress will find you" - very Zen. Like it. Cheers m'dear!

Won'tletlife - good thinking. Definitely worth a punt, thank you!

Sudders - aww bless you for the pep talk. I was moaning about the whole experience down the boozer last night and a mate has offered to come with me for the next round of shopping. I might just have to buy us a nice lunch while we're out. And a drink. You are so right about making a day of it! xx

kate1976 said...

Hi! Have you tried Coast? It is my new favourite 'occasion' shop. Coast is definitely the new Monsoon.

Lucy Diamond said...

Thanks Kate - will have a look on my next dress-shopping venture!

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