Monday, 18 June 2007

Update

I've just spoken to the school admissions person. Bad news. The local school have said my son can have a place there but there's no room for my daughter. I am so gutted, I can't even write about it. I don't want to move house any more. I just don't know what to do.

14 comments:

Kate said...

Oh, you poor thing. What madness. How can they have room for one and not the other?

No useful advice to offer - except, is there any likelihood that might change, will your daughter be on a waiting list? - but wanted to commiserate. Is it too early for alcohol?

xxx

Lucy Diamond said...

Thanks for commiserating, Kate. The school has spaces in my son's year (reception) but is already oversubscribed in my daughter's year (year one). We knew this before but when we went to the school, the head led us to believe it wouldn't be a problem as he was shuffling classes around. He seems to have changed his mind now, though unfortunately.
We have a good case for an appeal due to what they call 'sibling link' where it's preferable for siblings to be in the same school, and also on the fact that I can't physically get to 2 different schools for 9am every morning so one child will always be late which is not great for anyone. And we want to be able to walk to school, not drive, and make friends that live locally rather than across town and... well, lots of reasons, I won't rant on about them all here.
I just feel like I don't have any energy left for this now. I am so disappointed!
Don't trust myself to start on the booze yet (too much work to do today) but lovely partner has gone out to buy us cake.
Thanks for your message though. xxx

Helen said...

I too have no advice but just wanted to commiserate to show I'm out here listening. Good luck with the appeals process...

Lucy Diamond said...

Thanks Helen. I am trying to keep it in perspective - it's not the end of the world, worse things happen etc.
Am going down to have my cake now so hopefully that will work some magic....
Thanks for your message. It's good to be able to sound off about these things.

Helen said...

Cake has magical properties. I'm a firm believer in that.

Kate.Kingsley said...

Oh Lucy that's awful, I'm not surprised that you're feeling so low.

Fingers and toes crossed that the "sibling link" comes up trumps. I wish I had something useful to offer in the way of advice but schools admissions procedures are a total mystery to me I'm afraid.

I really do hope this works out for you ~ and I hope that cake is doing the trick,

Best wishes
Kate K

Lucy Diamond said...

Thanks, Kate. Nice to see you back!

NoviceNovelist said...

Fingers crossed for you Lucy that the 'sibling link' pays off. Hope the cake helped!!!!!! Where's that magic wand when you need it?????

Lucy Diamond said...

I know - a magic wand would be really handy right now. Anyone got a spare?!

Jane Henry said...

oh lucy!!! I haven't got any advice much, except...

I have friends here who ended up in your predicament and though it was hellish, they did manage. Are the schools infant/junior (so you could say to yourself I only have two years of this hell before I can get them into the same school?) or is one school for their whole primary school experience?

It MAY be that there is some shifting and by Sept the picture looks different.

Also, don't worry about the kids. They will BE FINE... My sister has moved hers three times, and my niece has been to three different schools and coped absolutely no problem.

The important thing is YOU are all together. Remember... it's that tiger story again. Home is where you are.

love and much sympathy. Hope you;re onto wine now.

jx

Clare said...

Oh nooooo!

Is there any chance that she'll get a place next year instead?

{{HUGS}}

Only consolation is that all schools have good and bad points, and chances are your second choice will not be that bad. It will just be logistically rather awkward - but you could get used to that. That's largely what parenthood is all about, after all.

But still, many {{HUGS}}.

Clare said...

And everything Jane said, too.

Amanda Mann said...

I'm so sorry. It's not just the practicalities is it, the underlying rejection feeling, of your CHILD, even though it's totally not personal in any way. And the fear of the unknown you're going through anyway. I think the most hopeful thing is that he did hint to you when you met that there might be a place, and the response I imagine was from the local authority, would he have said that if he felt there was no chance at all? Just lots and lots of hugs.

Lucy Diamond said...

Oh thanks, all of you, I really appreciate these comments and all the sympathy.
I have stopped weeping and feel a bit tougher about it all now. It was just such a blow, though, hearing this so late down the line.

Like you say, Jane, if we get worst case scenario of two different schools then it's not the end of the world, it will be manageable, but difficult - sometimes that's just how it goes. We will cope. Anyway, we've still got a chance at the appeal so we'll just have to put together a really strong case and give it everything we've got.

The school my daughter might end up in is really nice too, just not local, so it would be a pain to-ing and fro-ing every day, but I'm sure she'd be absolutely fine there. I just don't want her to think she's getting the short straw in any way.
Gawd. These things are never easy. But we've absorbed the shock now and are prepared to come out fighting...